What happened in your life in January, February, March…June, and July?
I actually remember very little about what happened in January, though things were quite different in my life then than they are now, at least professionally. I was still employed as a part-time biology tutor at the local community college.
The college doesn’t begin classes until nearly the middle of the month, and the very next week takes a day off in observance of the Martin Luther King Jr. holiday. That’s likely why I don’t remember much of January. It seems not much happened.
I do remember February, and some of what I continue to remember I wish I could selectively and permanently erase from my mind. The summer months – I don’t remember much of those, except that I had made it a goal to be out in the sun as much as possible. From the tan that even I was able to achieve, I would say I was successful.
It’s often the case that as life rolls on day after day, month after month, year after year, we really don’t remember, or perhaps notice, much of it. It just happens, often as the stuff we call everyday life.
Then at the end of the long year that has passed us by comes the holidays with the lights, the decorations, the gifts, the reunions with family and friends, and the anticipation of a new year.
There was a time when I loved the new year because I really did see it in the childlike way that I saw new things – different, fun, and exciting. Then I grew up and realized that things are rarely different on January 1st, or January 2nd, than they were on December 31st.
The tasks are the same; the challenges are the same; the things that didn’t happen – usually the “bad” things – the year before are even more likely to happen this year, because they didn’t happen last year.
In reality though our expectations about what is likely to happen in the new year, valid though many of them may be, are often just guesses that are like little wisps of steam rising from a teakettle. They exist but then quickly evaporate leaving little if anything behind.
As I sit and ponder plans and goals for 2020, I know that I truly don’t know what will happen in 2020. Some of our best guesses about what would happen in 2019 were wrong, and in some cases we’re grateful for that.
Fatalistic though my adulthood approach to a new year may sound, I do have hopes both for family members and for myself.
My young nephew is expecting to graduate in 2020, and probably to participate in convocation on his birthday in June. He will then continue on with his life in ways that he’s likely unsure of at this point. While that can look a little daunting to a young person, I hope it looks exciting, because it is.
I also know some people who are at, or nearing, the other end of life, and that can be hard on everyone involved. Working through those struggles that providing care and support bring into one’s life and the lives of family members can be tedious and tiring.
That’s one reason I so enjoy the vibrant energy of my young family members. Honestly, I need that balance in my life.
As I look ahead to 2020 with mixed feelings, as I have nearly every year as an adult, I believe that I need to focus more on living “in the moment.” Cliché though it may be, it is the primary way to rid one’s self of the worry that can drain a person, and it is perhaps one way to actually remember more of the things that make up the moments and the days that so quickly pass us by.
Living in the moment doesn’t preclude me from making plans. Generally the day before, I have in my mind my plans for the day to come. I have long-term plans as well; that being said, I also have a husband so our plans need to match. When that doesn’t happen, I plan to work more on the things that are specific to me and to achieving the goals that I have set for myself.
Goals that I have set for myself for 2020 do include a typical new year’s resolution; I need to lose weight. As importantly, though these goals should work in lockstep, I need to see cholesterol numbers change for the better, LDL lower and HDL higher, and I need to see blood glucose and blood pressure numbers remain in healthy ranges.
I also have professional plans; in particular, I plan to do more writing that is targeted for specific publications – publications that pay.
I also plan to continue to donate, recycle, and toss things in preparation for a move that will one day no longer be “next year,” but will become “this year.”
And I will have to do what all of us will have to do in 2020. We will have to adapt to the interruptions, the challenges, and perhaps even the tragedies that will come into our lives. Wouldn’t it be great if we were given the opportunity to adapt to the best of the changes that could come our way. Perhaps we will.
As it stands now, some 31 hours before the new year, this New Year’s Eve will be a quiet little dinner out. So, I believe I will plan a New Year’s Eve party for December 31, 2020. I had such a good time hosting the New Year’s Eve party on December 31, 2018 that I need to do it again because I also need to plan for more fun in 2020.
How different will my life look a year from now….
Happy New Year, and Happy New Decade! Make the best of 2020.