What day was the best day of your life?
Maybe it was the day you graduated, after having worked hard for an advanced degree. Or maybe it was the day you married that person with whom you want to spend the rest of your life. Perhaps it was the day you made an exciting move for a big career opportunity. Or maybe, as I often hear people say, it was the day your child was born – or the days your children were born.
These are special days, the kind we hope for, work for, plan for, and live for. We often celebrate them with the people who are the closest to us. We take pictures, or have loved ones take pictures, and frame them so that we can remember those days forever.
Some of these events are once in a lifetime events. Most, though not once in a lifetime, are rare.
The majority of our days proceed as the day before, and as the day before that, and as the day before that.
We live the life of routines that we have created for ourselves and for our family, and of the routines that have been created for us. Jobs that require a certain schedule, school drop off and pick up, kids’ sports, community involvement, church commitments, and the myriad of other things that dictate our days fill those little blocks of time on our calendars.
Sometimes we embrace the routines; they give our days and weeks a sense of structure. Sometimes we hate the schedules; they seem to take away the sense of independence and adventure that we all have somewhere within us, just waiting to be set free.
Most of the time, we just accept the schedules, the events that fill them, and the days as they come because that’s what adults do.
Thinking back on the things that have interrupted my and my husband’s schedule, they are the things that often create some of our more memorable days as well, but they are rarely the kinds of days we remember fondly.
When a phone call comes from family members who usually only uses Snapchat or Facebook PM to communicate, or when a phone call comes at a time when polite people don’t call, it’s rarely good news.
It was a sunny but cool autumn morning around 9:30 while I was running when my Pandora station was interrupted by a phone call. I saw that the call was coming from our youngest sister. Knowing that we communicate pretty much solely by text or PM, I decided I should take the call. My sister told me that an ambulance would be taking mom to the hospital; that they were assuming it to be a heart attack; and that she and dad would follow the ambulance on the 45 minute trip to the hospital where she would receive initial treatment.
My husband was at work so I sent him a text. He called me shortly thereafter. Not having much information, we decided to talk as soon as I learned more. I finished my run. There was little else I could do at that point, with minimal information, and living almost exactly three hours from the hospital where she would initially be taken.
As the day progressed, a plan developed. I had found out that mom would be taken to a larger hospital in northern Michigan that was better equipped to address more serious issues. My husband would take me to the Mt. Pleasant area, about two hours from us, to meet up with my second youngest sister, and the two of us would head north together.
We did execute that plan. My sister and I left our husbands behind to work their assigned schedules, as long as things remained stable and didn’t change for the worse. We went to be with dad who had made the trip over to the city with the larger hospital. For the next two nights, the three of us shared a hotel room and spent our days at the hospital with mom.
She underwent a heart catheterization during which a stent was placed in her artery and was given a fairly good prognosis considering what she had been through. She was released after three days in the hospital.
My sister and I had gone back to the parents’ house to stay on that final night of mom’s hospitalization. I did some cleaning and made a meal before it was time for me to make my travel arrangements to head home. The forecast was for a snowstorm to come across the state by the weekend, so we decided sooner rather than later would be better. My husband met my dad and I on the evening my mom was released so that he didn’t have to drive the whole way after work. Then we headed home while dad made the trip back to their home, and mom rested at home with my sisters.
I sometimes think about how I felt waiting on the sixth floor of the heart hospital while mom was having the procedure; I stared out the window feeling like I didn’t belong in that scenario, like I had stepped out of my life and into a different one. Yes, those were memorable days – days during which, for seven people, the routine had been rather dramatically interrupted.
We have experienced similar days since, with mom and with other family members. Not all of those days have resulted in such dramatic schedule changes as did the days when mom had the heart attack, though some have come close, but each interrupts the routine of at least a few people in some ways.
This day is winding down. I ran this morning, vacuumed the house, did the laundry, got lunch for my husband when he came home on lunch break, and wrote a blog post. It really hasn’t been much more than just another day, and for that I’m grateful.