That place you call home, is it the country you left, the city where you grew up, or an actual house?
My husband’s grandmother immigrated to the United States from Italy in the early 1900s and settled the family on the lower west side of Michigan among a group of fellow Italian immigrants. Most of her five children, including my husband’s mother, remained in the area and raised their families there.
My husband grew up in the big house on the corner, and his mom remained in that huge house until her early 80s when Alzheimer’s disease began to take its ugly toll on her life.
After his mother’s passing, my husband and his sister made the difficult decision to sell their family house, the house that had been in the family for nearly 65 years.
My past is quite dissimilar to my husband’s.
Though my parents stayed in the same part of Michigan until my sister and I were in our early teens, they had already changed locations twice before I was three years old.
While I had considered the house I lived in from about three years of age until I turned 13 to be my home, I learned that the time had come to move an hour south for my dad’s job, and so we moved on to the house where I spent my teen years and the house to which I would return while I was home from college throughout my early 20s.
Once again, my parents decided to move, this time about three hours north, to pursue a longtime dream they had put off while we were in school. They purchased a seven unit motel in northern lower Michigan.
Since I had completed college, I chose to stay in the area and was eventually able to find a job that paid enough for me to move into an apartment with a friend. In order to be closer to my job, I eventually moved into an apartment of my own, and I would move two more times after that before I married.
My parents, having moved on from the motel business, now rent a house about 15 miles away from the motel property.
It has been a very long time since I have felt an emotional attachment to any one house or even one community.
My parents used to own a small camper that was said to sleep six. Since there were only four of us, mom, dad, my younger sister Lesley – Lez, and me, it was quite spacious and served our purposes rather well.
One summer when Lez and I were around 9 and 11 years old, my parents pulled the camper into lot number 24 at Tawas Point State Park, a beautiful, lightly wooded campground that sits between the shores of Tawas Bay and of Lake Huron.
We enjoyed the privacy that the trees created around our spot, and the “secret,” short path that went from our campsite out to the sandy shore of the bay. We liked the playgrounds, and the fact that this campground had not one, but two beaches with their different personalities, the bay warm and calm, and Lake Huron, chilly and “wavy.”
Some ten years later, our family returned to Tawas Point State Park, in a borrowed motor home and with two new sisters, two of the foster children our parents had adopted.
At that time, campers didn’t reserve campsites in advance so Lez and I were more than thrilled to discover that we had been assigned lot number 24, as were our parents too I think.
After dad had parked the motor home, Lez and I hurried out. Both eager to see how our campsite had fared over the years, we eagerly headed down that secret path to see the bay. One of our little sisters had started to follow us, but I heard my mom quietly say, “Let them go.”
Though the shoreline had changed somewhat due to erosion, the campsite looked as it had when we had been kids not much older than our little sisters.
One night Lez and I went for a walk along the bay. The nearly full moon provided a pleasant, muted glow on the sand. One of us picked up a twig, and we signed our names in the cool, damp sand to confirm the pact we had just made.
We had promised to return to Tawas Point State Park one day with our own families, though I remember pointing out at that time that I wouldn’t be returning with children because I had never wanted children, and to share this place that had come to mean so much to us with them, whoever “they” would be.
And so we have returned to Tawas Point with our families: me with my husband, whose work schedule always seems to work out so he can only be there to spend the last night and then take me home (he doesn’t love tents and camping); and my sister Lez with her three kids; and my sister Steph with her husband; and my youngest sister Heather; and both of our parents.
Through the years as we have returned to our favorite state park to camp, various members or our families have attended and have missed our camping trips, but in June of 2016, everyone was there – both parents, all spouses, and Lez’s three children.
We sisters secretly wondered if it would be the last time everyone would be there together, with our parents’ age-related health issues and with the older niece and nephew soon to set out on their own life adventures, but I not so secretly hope not. In fact, we are trying to convince my nephew to plan his graduation party to take place next year like his 16th birthday party took place last year, on a campsite at Tawas Point.
It was on the camping trip in 2012 when my wonderful husband dropped me off at the park, but had to leave to be back for work, that I realized something.
As I sat up my tent alone, the first of our family members to arrive, I discovered that the secret to Tawas Point lie in more than the soft sand of the beaches, the coral glow of the sunsets over the bay, the familiar scent of the pine trees, and the sound of the birds at dawn. The secret was that this place had been bringing our family, in all of its various forms, together for nearly 30 years.
It’s not surprising then that whenever I think of Tawas Point, I think home.