While serving on a church leadership team about five years ago, I was attending a dinner meeting. I had mentioned that my husband’s and my anniversary was the following week. One of the members of the group asked how many years we had been married. I said, “I’m not sure; I think six…?”
My wedding anniversary is a happy anniversary to celebrate, even though I couldn’t remember the year on that one occasion. It provides us with another laugh to add to the many we’ve shared over the past ten years, on our way to eleven on May 13th.
Sometimes anniversaries are less than happy though, and sometimes the happy intersects with the heartbreaking.
On February 11th, my parents anniversary – 45 this year, I often think of Rachel, my friend of nearly 30 years, because her mom lost her battle with leukemia on February 11th as well.
People often remember the anniversary of the passing of a parent, a spouse, or a child – especially if that child was particularly young.
While completing observation hours for my exercise science degree, I learned during an educational presentation made to the cardiac rehabilitation patients at Michigan Heart and Vascular Center that heart attack survivors remember the anniversary of their event very vividly, particularly the first anniversary.
It was on Tuesday, March 21st that I received an email from my sister Lesley, the mom of my niece Rebekah and her siblings. Rebekah is the oldest of three at age 18; her brother David is 16; and her sister Cynthia is six. At the age of eight, Rebekah was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes, the only one of the three siblings, thus far, to share the metabolic disease that her dad was diagnosed with at age 16.
This past Tuesday was the 10th anniversary of Rebekah’s diagnosis. I will share a part of Lesley’s email with you now. The email was written to “The Aunts,” me, our other two sisters, and Lesley’s two sisters in law.
“It has been ten years in the fight against diabetes for Rebekah, and today marks the 10th anniversary of her diagnosis of diabetes, exactly a month after her 8th birthday! She has had over 16,000 insulin shots in her life of living with diabetes for the past ten yrs, in addition, about 40 blood tests and two or three IVs. On the positive note, Rebekah has not ever had to face an unconscious low blood glucose nor an ER visit due to extremely low blood glucose. She has made sure of this! I am relieved to have not had to face that scary moment with my own child.”
Lesley has had to face that moment with her husband several times over the past 20 years though, too many times to remember. The lowest blood glucose reading of his that I remember her mentioning was 36. He was unconscious of course, and his daughter Rebekah gave him the emergency glucagon injection to raise his blood glucose to safer levels.
Back to Lesley’s email:
“As you all know living with diabetes is a not the normal life and is challenging, yet the advancements have made it so much better than in the past and one can lead a closer to normal life because of recent research and technology. I’m thankful for that. I’m so thankful that Rebekah has a wonderful tolerance to needles not that the being poked by a needle doesn’t hurt, but that she has endured it with courage.
I think back to all that we’ve been through along the road of living with diabetes: diabetes education courses for several months, logging info, weekly consultation with diabetes educators and the insulin adjustments that followed, counting carbs, insulin shots, a year long trial with the pump, (Rebekah’s) never being able to eat without checking blood glucose and getting insulin, stopping to give Bek insulin on road trips or doing it in the moving car and watching for curves or sudden stops, checking blood glucose in the night, phone call to Jody (Rebekah’s diabetes nurse-educator) at late hours, learning how to manage ketones at home and when an ER trip is needed, knowing how to adjust Bek’s insulin myself, sitting in ER while Bek received intravenous due to moderate ketones from having the stomach flu, refilling meds, and taking along that pink, camo case – always being covered with the diabetic necessities everywhere she goes, and having to inform those she’s with (about her having diabetes), exercise and lows, public embarrassment in the beginning days, always being a diabetic, and so much more.
It’s a sentimental anniversary date so I’m not sure what one actually does so I gave her a gift just because of her living with diabetes for ten years, not to celebrate her having diabetes. I’m proud of her so I’d guess it’s a “Congrats” and “Keep up the good fight. So send her a message to let her know she’s not alone, and you’re rooting her on in her fight for life. Pray for her health.”
There is a good chance that each person who reads this blog post has an anniversary in their life and/or in the life of their family that is not a happy one because life has its challenges.
Lesley mentioned the anniversary of Rebekah’s diagnosis being an emotional one. It was a bit emotional for me as I read the email. I’m not a parent, but I remember holding Rebekah just a few weeks after she was born. Rachel and I took a road trip to northern Michigan to meet Rebekah.
I remember Rebekah’s first Christmas too. Her parents lived in a small but cute log house; they were both sleeping one December morning just after Christmas, but she and I were awake. I fed her a bottle as we watched the snow fall on the pine trees – you may recall this memory from my blog post a few weeks ago. Now she’s just two months from her high school graduation.
I wouldn’t have been aware of this anniversary if Lesley hadn’t emailed us. I’m not likely to remember it in the coming years in the way she does. I haven’t spent the past 10 years living with a daughter who has diabetes.
My experiences have shown me that her life is challenging. We know that, and she knows that. What I think of most as I ponder the 10th anniversary of the diagnosis is the courage and the fight Rebekah showed last June when she and I rode together in the American Diabetes Association’s Tour de Cure. She rocked the fundraising, exceeding the minimum required to ride by double, and she did well on the ride on a ridiculously hot day too – better than I did.
While we’re not exactly celebrating this anniversary, I think we can celebrate Rebekah and those who face the challenges that their DNA has given them, those who fight on and live the best life possible in spite of those challenges.
(To learn more about the fight against diabetes, and to make a donation if you are so inclined, visit either http://www.diabetes.org/ or http://www.jdrf.org/)