Low on the horizon, those subtle reds and oranges that fade into the golden glow that would eventually become daylight caught my eye.
Friday morning….
As I dried my hands and glanced again at the beginnings of sunrise, I thought about the times when I would have been out running as day began to break. This time I went back to bed and experienced broken sleep for about an hour.
Most people are excited about Fridays, but as I began to surrender to wakefulness what I thought about was all of the rather dreary work that lie ahead.
The list of things I had wanted to be when I grew up ranged from a person who worked with orcas and other marine life to a designer of greeting cards to a writer who traveled the world to a successful athlete. My list did not include housewife, but housewife was my role for the day.
In addition to my negative thoughts, my nagging injuries were indeed nagging at me as we changed the sheets on our California king water bed after getting out of it. I always need my husband’s help putting on the fitted sheet because I cannot raise that water-filled mattress enough to get its corners to flow into the fitted sheet’s pockets.
My back was already aching by time I had finished making the rest of the huge bed, and it wasn’t even 8 o’clock yet.
I carried the weight of my 40-something body, two laundry baskets, and my negativity down the stairs to the main floor where the dishwasher needed to be emptied, but that would have to wait until I started the laundry.
After the washing machine was set to perform its task, I sat with my husband for a few minutes before he left for work. It was while I was sitting there, not at all at peace, that I realized that I needed to change my course, or the day would be miserable.
I kissed him goodbye and went to the living room to do two short but affective morning yoga sessions from my YouTube playlist. The stretching helped loosen up my sore body, and the breathing helped my anxiety level to decrease.
With the dishwasher needing to be emptied next, I decided to listen to music. I thought about the song “Good Morning” by Christian artist Mandisa. That song though – it’s as saccharine as a warm glazed donut with extra glaze dripping down. It’s just so positive that it’s almost too optimistic to be realistic.
So I found the song and started a playlist that began with it. My thought was that I had started the day in such a negative place that perhaps a musical sugar high like that would be a good next step toward improving the day.
The song that followed was another song by Mandisa called “Unfinished.” Many of her songs are very positive and encouraging, which is a good thing, but I think I may appreciate “Unfinished” most because of the reality-based nature of it. She opens the song with the lyrics, “I used to be the one preaching it to you that you could overcome. I still believe it, but ain’t easy.”
Whatever happened to cause her to realize that “It ain’t easy,” and to start “having doubts” made for a song that acknowledges that things aren’t always awesome, don’t always turn out the way we had hoped, and make us wonder what’s going on with our lives. But her positive message still prevails in the end, because of the ultimate hope we have.
The choice to do yoga and to listen to uplifting music didn’t change the fact that I still had a workout, that unfortunately would not be a sunrise run, and a list of chores ahead of me. But the choice to actually do something to change the trajecterory of my day made a difference in those early moments.
Mandisa is right; it ain’t always easy. But I am beginning to realize that it’s better to try, even if the effort doesn’t give us the results we’d hoped for every time, than to let the moments, the hours, and the days be ruled by the unchecked musings of negativity.
The only place we actually live is in each moment. If we can do something to make the majority of our moments a bit better, and if we can work to more quickly let go of those moments that aren’t so good, then perhaps we can experience more days that are better overall.